I LOVE this time of year—the time with family, picking out those perfect gifts to give, playing in the snow, baking cookies….and I hate it a bit, too, for all the same reasons—the stress of travel, picking out gifts, running errands, dealing with snow storms, trying to maintain a decent diet in the face of cookies and appetizers and other yummy waistline-builders.
In the midst of all this, finding time for writing sometimes feels impossible. I certainly am finding myself more strapped for time to write, read, critique, blog, and Tweet than usual! My NaNoWriMo novel was derailed this year (alas), I haven’t begun Christmas shopping, I still haven’t finished unpacking from our Thanksgiving trip, and laundry is starting to creep into my writing time.
So how does a busy writer do it all?
My friend Pam asked this very question over on the Wild Writers blog a few weeks ago, and I really liked her answer: you don’t (do it all, that is.) It’s easy to be hard on ourselves for failing to keep up on blogging, Facebook, Twitter, and let’s not forget the all-important WIP, especially because as you read everyone else’s blogs, FB updates, and Tweets, it might sound like everyone else is all happy-happy, joy-joy, singing carols and munching sweets and wrapping gifts in color-coded wrapping paper. Theoretically.
But let’s not forget that people tend to put their best face forward in those venues. That’s not necessarily a bad thing—who wants to read griping?—but it’s worth remembering if you find yourself comparing a crazy, stressed-out afternoon to someone else’s ever-cheery updates.
So—if there are any others reading this with the bad habit of comparing yourself to others—I think it’s time for an end-of-the year vow to STOP COMPARING and start figuring out what works for us. We don’t have to do it all.
At least, not all at the same time :-).
My vow for December: I won’t compare my efforts and accomplishments with those of other people.